Spending Holidays Abroad
Spending the holidays away from home can be challenging, especially for students studying abroad who might feel lonely or disconnected from family traditions. And (important framework: both/and instead of but!) those challenges also offer opportunity to practice flexibility, grow skills, and build relationships – three elements of optimal mental health. Some practical tips to share with students:
Allow the hard feelings to be there – it is normal and ok to feel all kinds of ways while away from home at the holidays. Offer yourself an “of course” with compassion.
And (!): stay in touch with folks from home that you love and miss. Can you FaceTime into the dinner, candle lighting, or opening presents?
Make plans with others around you – are there other students in your cohort or international students away from home with whom you can make a plan for meals and sharing traditions? What meal might you make or find that reminds you of home or immerses you in the host country? Perhaps even connecting with a local family (a facilitator? Faculty member?) to join their holiday celebrations and deepen your experience of local customs in the place you’re visiting.
Explore cultural experiences of the holidays where you are: markets, concerts, events. You can share these with the people you love at home.
Volunteering can help you shift the focus from your own feelings of loneliness to a sense of purpose and community. Many organizations hold holiday events or community dinners for those who might be alone during this time.
If you're in a place where travel is feasible, consider taking a trip to explore new places. Being away from home can be a great opportunity to adventure and create your own memories. Even a day trip or small outing can provide a sense of excitement and accomplishment.
The holidays can also be a time for relaxation and reflection. You don’t have to be constantly busy or "making the most" of every moment. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break and just recharge. Reading, journaling, or even watching holiday movies can be comforting and offer moments of escape that help you reconnect with yourself.
The downtime during the holidays can be an opportunity to reflect on your personal goals, whether they’re academic, professional, or personal. Consider setting intentions for the new year (check out our newsletter on values-informed goals for the new year!), or working on a creative project that helps you stay engaged and optimistic.
Reflect on the unique experience of studying abroad, even the challenging parts. Every part of this journey – joyful or difficult – contributes to your personal growth. Practicing gratitude can help our mental health, even if it is just to acknowledge the air filling our lungs.
